Elizabeth Taylor rightly quipped about a break up, Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together.
Break-ups are hard. Especially if you are the one being dumped! There are many ways to handle a break up; some hilarious, others disturbing and very few that are practical.
So instead of making a bonfire of your ex's belongings, pack up your own and head on the trip of your lifetime! It might not be the first thing that comes to the mind but it is a great way to detach and detox from the past.
Relationships are challenging. With ungrateful compromises and uncomfortable silences, relationships sometimes grow into dull, vapid routines that require so much mental and emotional work. Being single after a long, tedious and unpleasant relationship could be quite liberating if we can just go past the whining and the false notion of dependence. Travelling will open your mind. Some might call it running away but sometimes it's better to escape a situation that is not in your control and protect yourself from further emotional deterioration. Travelling after a break up serves more than one purpose:
1.You can switch off and shut off the unpleasant memories that haunt you when you visit the same places and do the same things that you used to as a couple
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2. It could be a good way to seek the much-needed revenge from your ex! Imagine your ex's frustration when he/she finds out that you are off on a relaxing holiday whereas he/she is stuck in the same office and the same routine!
3. Travelling is a great way to meet new people. Who knows, the next Mr./Ms. Right might be waiting for you on a boat in Vietnam! Even if you don't meet your next lover, you will surely go back with new friends.
4. Have you noticed the expression on everybody's face after a break up? It is a combination of sympathy and wicked satisfaction mingled with How are you holding up and I knew he/she wasn't right for you. Won't it be great to escape that!?
5. Travelling will help you find yourself. It's easy to lose individuality in a relationship, you are always trying to be someone else for the sake of your lover. But when you are travelling, there will be no one to judge you or boss you around!
6. Travelling helps to reflect on yourself. How many of us give time to ourselves? As David Brown rightly put it, "what is this life if full of care, there is no time to stand and stare". Travelling is like a much needed breath of air after the stifling life in the city. Travelling will give you a chance to think about what you want from life, what went wrong and how you need to move on.
7. When you push yourself in a new place with strangers around , your mind has no time to think about the past and moan over split milk. Most of your mind space would go into surviving and organizing. A great way to divert your mind!
Go on a yacht, rent a tent or go hiking. A new experience will clear your weary mind and lighten your shoulders of the emotional burden. A lot of people would prefer travelling with friends which is a great option to unwind and have some fun along with having the comfort of a shoulder to cry on. Travelling alone would do wonders. It would force you to face yourself, know yourself and reconnect with your individual goals and dreams.
Travelling broadens horizons. When you come back from your trip, you will have sifted focus from obsessing over that one incident to a broader range of possibilities that your life awaits. Even though travelling is no panacea, it helps to de-clutter your mind and look at the world as this big, huge place where small things like breakups are mere hiccups that are fluid and transitional in nature.
Like someone once truly said, You can't start a new chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. It's better to move on than to pick up the broken pieces.
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